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Do Good and Fear No Man: Biblical-Based Success Principles

Do Good and Fear No Man: Biblical-Based Success Principles

The United States military builds some of the most incredible leaders in life. Do Good and Fear No Man, Life Lessons from a Career in the US Marines, is a book by one such leader.

He has shown himself to be a man who is faithful in his service to God, his family and his country.

I have the pleasure of knowing the author, Lieutenant Colonel David W. Pinion, U.S. Marine Corps, because of our service in church together. I was surprised the day that I learned that he had published a book.

Of course, I had to grab a copy right away! If a friend writes a book, you buy a copy, right?

Want to live a more prosperous life? Looking for secrets to impact the lives of people around you? Do you desire to become a better leader? A better husband? A better father?

This book will go a long way in moving you in the right direction.

Do Good and Fear No Man started as a project to give to the author’s children.

LtCol Pinion shares his thoughts on the frailty of life when serving in the military and what he would want his children to know should he not return home from a deployment.

“I try not to take anything for granted and am thankful for things as simple as the air in my lungs, my ability to walk across the room, and the ability to hold a thought in my head.”
LtCol David W. Pinion, Do Good and Fear No Man

do good and fear no man book coverFrom the moment I opened to cover, I could feel the heart of the author and a sense of love as he wrote the words. Very much like a father writing to his children, or even a grandfather who wants to pass on truths to his grandchildren.

The writing is certainly not condescending, though. LtCol Pinion will challenge you in the area of faith, your actions toward others and your thoughts of success and prosperity.

It can be read from cover to cover, yet be used as a reference book to look up guidance for specific situations in life.

There is even a list of 299 habits of success.

Do Good and Fear No Man is easy to read, but it won’t be easy putting the lessons into practice. As he mentions in Chapter 2, “Maturity, be it spiritual, emotional, physical or intellectual, doesn’t not just happen; it must be sought after.”

LtCol Pinion shares snippets of his experiences in the Marine Corps, hence the subtitle, Life Lessons from a Career in the US Marines.

In fact, my favorite part of the book are the two epilogues included. These epilogues detail events that happened in Fallujah, Iraq from the perspective of two different military leaders; one of them is the author. These alone are worth the price of the book!

“Life can be incredibly painful and unfair at times, but a lot will be decided on how you choose to react to the obstacles you encounter.”
LtCol David W. Pinion, Do Good and Fear No Man

Throughout the book, you will find quotes from from other authors, lots of Bible and other supporting references. It’s obvious that LtCol Pinion has taken great care to detail all of his sources.

Do Good and Fear No Man is a practical success book from a biblical perspective.

It is packed with life lessons, guiding principles and even practical resources like websites to teach you how to change a tire and recommended books to read.

If you have a desire to become a better person tomorrow than you are today, Do Good and Fear No Man is a great resource for you.

Click here to order your copy from Amazon.

While you’re at it, pick up a few copies for gifts to important people in your life!

You can follow LtCol Pinion on his Facebook page at the following link:
https://www.facebook.com/DoGoodandFearNoMan

Please share this post with others so that we can help LtCol Pinion make an impact on more people through this great book of his!

 

Doug is a retired U.S. Air Force veteran who enjoys computers and technical gadgets. He serves God in his local church in the audio/video ministry. He holds an Advanced Diploma of Biblical Studies from Faith Bible Institute. Doug and his wife, Emily, have been married since 1989 and have successfully raised three children. It is his desire to impact young Christian men. "I believe that most men are not living up to the potential that God has for them and I want to help them to find their purpose, grow spiritually and impact other men for Christ."
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What is a Real Man? And How Do You Become One?

What is a Real Man? And How Do You Become One?

I was recently asked to define “real men”. What is a real man?

This was probably because of my blog slogan where I put, “Helping Real Men Become Real.”

But it did get me thinking, what is a real man? How would I define one? How would I answer the question posed to me?

I could go to Google or society and see what it says is the definition of a real man. And some of those definitions, I think, would be right.

But my goal in this post is to look at what the Bible says about men and see what we might be able to discern there. What might God say is the definition of a real man?

A good place to start answering the question of what is a real man might be in the book of Titus. Here we have Paul writing to Titus and explaining to Titus how to choose elders, or leaders in his church.

Here is what Paul wrote to Titus. Although written as a guide for choosing leaders, I believe it also helps us to see what God wants for every man.

If any be blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of riot or unruly. For a bishop must be blameless, as the steward of God; not selfwilled, not soon angry, not given to wine, no striker, not given to filthy lucre; But a lover of hospitality, a lover of good men, sober, just, holy, temperate; Holding fast the faithful word as he hath been taught, that he may be able by sound doctrine both to exhort and to convince the gainsayers.
Titus 1:6-9

There a similar list found in 1 Timothy 3, but let’s look at this and see what we can learn.

What is a Real Man When He is Alone?

“…blameless…not given to wine…temperate…holding fast the faithful word…to exhort and convince…”

A real man is blameless in the sense that he always strives to live right.

He is no hypocrite. He has integrity of character so that he is the same man when alone as he is when in a crowd. He has no hidden sin or vices.

He is firm and solid in his belief in God an is able to teach others. This means that a real man studies the Bible, knows what he believes and why he believes it.

Study to show thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.
2 Timothy 2:15

A real man is a man of prayer in his alone time.

James tells us that “The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.” (James 5:16) A real man spends time on his knees in prayer.

What is a Real Man When He is at Home?

“…the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of riot or unruly…a lover of hospitality…temperate…”

A real man is completely and totally devoted to loving his wife, if married. He stays with her, leads her and sacrificially loves her as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25).

Marriage, I believe, is where a real man will meet his greatest challenge in life. Men by nature have great egos and are selfish. It is in marriage where a man must lay himself aside and learn to love as God loves, sacrificially.

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
Ephesians 6:4

A real man leads his home in all areas, especially in the area of spiritual growth. He is firm and rightly trains his children to love God and be obedient and respectful.

He spends time reading the Bible and praying with his family.

What is a Real Man When He is at Work?

“…not soon angry…a lover of good men…just…holy…”

A real man is the example in the work place. He is temperate and doesn’t erupt in anger over small, insignificant things.

I once heard someone say, “You can determine the size of a man by the size of the things that make him mad.” If that’s true, I’ve worked around a lot of small men!

A real man spends time around other good men that build him up and encourage him. He doesn’t spend much time around those at work who complain and talk badly about others. He is aware of what influences him.

He is honest with his work. He’s on time and productive. His thoughts and his words are always tested, positive and holy.

What is a Real Man When He is at Church?

“…steward of God; not selfwilled…holding fast the faithful word…”

A real man is a steward of what God has given him, to include his finances. He is obedient to God in his tithes and offerings. He loves to give back as God has given to him.

Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.
Hebrews 10:25

He is committed and faithful to his local church and is serving in some capacity based upon the gifts and talents that God has given him.

A real man is attentive in church and studies God’s word so that he can become a better man himself, and so he can use his knowledge to impact others.

How to Become a Real Man?

While all men fail, I believe the overall characteristic of a real man’s life will picture what we just looked at here in the book of Titus.

It’s a tall order and I doubt that any man measures up to what God expects. But I’m thankful that God is faithful and forgiving and helps us to grow, if we ask Him. (1 John 1:9)

The first step in becoming a real man is asking God to forgive you and to save you. Because, if you are not saved your life cannot fulfill what God requires of you. You must first take care of the sin problem.

If you would like to know more about how to be saved, please reach out to me and I’d be happy to share with you what the Bible really says about salvation.

If you are saved, ask God to help you to become the man that He wants you to be. If you would like to talk to me about anything, please reach out.

A great resource to help you become a better man is my free ebook, 7 Keys to Break Free from Habitual Sin. While you may not have any specific habitual sin in your life, this book will help you to grow in other areas. Enter your name and email at DougAllison.com (or on this page) and I’ll send you your free copy right away!

 

Doug is a retired U.S. Air Force veteran who enjoys computers and technical gadgets. He serves God in his local church in the audio/video ministry. He holds an Advanced Diploma of Biblical Studies from Faith Bible Institute. Doug and his wife, Emily, have been married since 1989 and have successfully raised three children. It is his desire to impact young Christian men. "I believe that most men are not living up to the potential that God has for them and I want to help them to find their purpose, grow spiritually and impact other men for Christ."
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How to Be a Better Husband and Have a Happy Marriage

How to Be a Better Husband and Have a Happy Marriage

God has a lot to say about marriage and how to be a better husband. He wants you to have a prosperous and happy marriage.

So why is it that many couples never accomplish that goal of a happy marriage? Why is it that there are so many problems in marriages today?

I’m going to make a pretty bold statement here and I hope you’ll stay with me, men. I will go on to explain details later, but I want to give you what you need to hear. Are you ready?

Your marriage is in the condition it is right now because of you.

Ouch? Did I lose anyone?

For you serious men that are still with me, read that statement again. Agree with it and accept that responsibility. Because, if you want to be a better husband and have a happy marriage, then you need to start taking responsibility for your marriage.

If you’re not ready for that, then stop reading now and go back to your video games, movies, TV shows, drinking or whatever vice you have, and accept that your marriage just isn’t going to get any better. I’m sorry, but I can’t help you.

But if you’re man enough to accept that statement, and understand what God’s word says to you about your marriage, I believe that you can learn how to be a better husband and have a happy marriage.

No one will ever arrive at the destination of being the perfect husband. It will require daily work on your part to continue to grow and it will be hard. There will always be resistance in life when you choose to grow in the right direction.

Let’s see what we can learn from the book of Ephesians:

Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Ephesians 5:21-25

I believe that if we learn and follow what is taught here, we will grow and have an impact on our wives and our marriages.

How to Be a Better Husband: Learn to Lean

Paul talks about the marriage relationship after a discussion of our relationship with God and others. Chapter 5 in Ephesians begins with, “Be ye therefore followers of God.” He then talks about submission to each other in verse 21.

Men don’t like to submit. Our ego and our pride wants to rise up and say, “I’m my own man. I can do what I want. I’m in charge around here!”

God tells us that we need to learn to lean; to submit. Submission isn’t weakness, it’s strength and power that can be directed and used.

horseA horse is an extremely powerful animal. It’s estimated that one could pull three times it’s weight! Horses are used for so many tasks because of their strength and abilities. They are valuable because they submit and we can use them.

What if we couldn’t train a horse? What if they were so wild that we couldn’t use them? What if they wouldn’t submit to us? Then all of that power and strength would be completely wasted and unusable.

If we are to be a better husband, then God says we need to follow Him and we need to submit to His leadership in our lives so that we can be what we were intended.

That means spending time in God’s word and asking Him in prayer to guide us, strengthen us and grow us into the men we need to be. It’s only when we submit to God, lean on Him and other godly leadership in our lives that we will grow.

How to Be a Better Husband: Learn to Lead

Continuing in our verses in Ephesians, we read, “For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church.”

couple fightingYes! Now we’re talking, right? God says I’m the head of the wife so I’m going to tell her how it’s going to be! I’m the God-appointed leader and she better get in line.

Don’t forget to read that last part of the verse where it clearly defines our responsibility and the type of leadership that we provide. It says, “even as Christ is the head of the church.”

We need to learn to lead in our marriage as Christ leads the church.

I don’t believe there’s a better example of servant leadership than Jesus Christ. His life, while here on Earth, was full of service to others. He met spiritual needs as well as emotional and physical needs.

You may be meeting the financial needs of your wife, but are you meeting the other needs as well? Are you leading in that area?

Be the spiritual leader of your marriage. Attend church faithfully and serve together in your local church. Read the Bible and pray together with your wife; share with her what you are learning as you read and study on your own.

Meet your wife’s emotional needs. Our wives are emotional beings. God created them that way and it’s part of their strength. She needs you to spend time listening to her whether it’s related to work, family or anything else. Hold her when she needs it  and be understanding of her concerns.

Put the physical needs of your wife above your own. If you’re allowing images of other women to satisfy your own sexual desires rather than focusing on your wife, then you’re putting your desires first, and you’re planting the seeds of destruction in your marriage. Keep your focus on your wife.

Learn to lead as Christ leads. He’s the model, not earthly men.

True leadership isn’t “telling her the way it’s going to be”. True leadership is saying, “I’m following and trusting God, so you can confidently follow and trust me.”

How to Be a Better Husband: Learn to Love

Finally, Paul writes, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.”

It’s interesting that God tells the man to love his wife, but He doesn’t tell the woman that. He tells the woman to reverence, or respect, her husband.

He tells the woman to respect her husband because that’s her husband’s greatest need. He tells the man to love his wife because that’s her greatest need.

God knows that He doesn’t have to command us to do what we do by nature. He has to instruct us to do what isn’t natural for us. And men need help in the area of loving others.

Men love themselves by nature. We do, just admit it. Our natural focus is on us and our needs. That’s why God tells us later, in verse 33, that a husband should “love his wife even as himself”.

I have to admit, that when I really came to grips with the type of love that I was to have for my wife, I felt horribly inadequate. Think about it, verse 25 tells me that I’m to love my wife “as Christ loved the church, and gave himself for it.”

That’s a level of sacrificial love that I’m not sure I can ever attain. But I’m commanded to, so I better make it a life-long commitment to learning how to love her that way.

Ask God daily to help you love your wife the way that He’s commanded you to do so. When he speaks to your heart (and I believe that he will) and gives you thoughts and ideas, act on them. You’ll become better and your marriage will be happier.

 

 

Summary and Resources

Earlier, I made the statement that the condition of your marriage is because of you. I believe that God has given men the responsibility to be the head, to lead. If you build properly, according to God’s design, then your marriage can prosper as God desires.

Want to know how to be a better husband and how to have a happy marriage? Follow God’s direction as found in Ephesians 5 and learn to lean, learn to lead and learn to love.

If you’d like to learn more about how to be a better husband and improve your marriage relationship, here are a couple of books that have really helped me:

The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts
by Gary D. Chapman

A Faith Full Marriage: Building a Lifetime of Love on Biblical Principles
Paul Chappell

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Let’s work together to have an impact on the lives of men while we grow ourselves.

Doug is a retired U.S. Air Force veteran who enjoys computers and technical gadgets. He serves God in his local church in the audio/video ministry. He holds an Advanced Diploma of Biblical Studies from Faith Bible Institute. Doug and his wife, Emily, have been married since 1989 and have successfully raised three children. It is his desire to impact young Christian men. "I believe that most men are not living up to the potential that God has for them and I want to help them to find their purpose, grow spiritually and impact other men for Christ."
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3 Leadership Principles You Need to Know to Be Effective

3 Leadership Principles You Need to Know to Be Effective

3 Leadership Principles You Need to Know to Be Effective

leadership principlesOn your way to becoming a leader? If you’re reading this, it tells me that you are already a leader since you want to learn and improve yourself.

If you don’t have followers yet, don’t worry, you will. A leader doesn’t require followers to develop leadership. Once the leader begins to develop, the right kind of followers will be attracted to the leader.

Since you’re on your way to becoming a leader, in your home, in your business or wherever you are, you will want to know some important leadership principles that I recently learned. And, since you are the leader to your team, you will want to learn these and pass these on to your followers as well. Remember, good leaders are always developing leaders themselves.

Here are three important leadership principles that I recently learned about leadership from a few different sources.

1. Get Your Ego Out of the Way

Everyone struggles with their ego. Men more than women, but everyone has problems in this area. We all have a tendency toward pride and selfishness. If you’re going to be an effective leader, you’ve got to learn to squelch your ego. You need to be humble. Realize that even as a leader you don’t have all the answers and you will continue to have a need to grow. Be willing to take the arrows of criticism, whether you think it’s “constructive” or not. All criticism will help you to grow, if you’re attitude toward it is right. Remember, to be a good leader you must first be a good follower. And great leaders are always great servants and are others focused.

2. Every Decision You Make has a Cause and Effect

Leaders are watched and emulated. Leaders are held to a higher standard. If you are going to be a great leader then you will need to learn that everything you do and say has an affect on your followers for good or for bad. Be careful what you say, or post online. Always consider the effect of what you say, post and do will have on others. Sometimes even the smallest thing can end up having a profound effect on someone’s life in a negative or a positive way. Make sure it’s always positive.

3. Success is Harder to Handle Than Failure

This is true for two reasons. One is internal, the other is external.

First, as you begin to realize success in your leadership you will have internal struggles. The biggest battles that you will ever fight in life are the ones you fight in your mind against yourself. Your mind is a citadel and under constant attack, guard it well. Watch out for pride that will cause you to immediately be ineffective. Pride will tell you that you’ve made it and that you no longer need to improve yourself, read, study or move beyond what you’ve already become. Internal struggles won’t just stagnate your growth, they will pull you backward.

Second, you will face external struggles. As you realize success, you will probably notice those you thought were friends and loyal followers beginning to attack you. This is normal since pride swells and people will become jealous of your new status. Sometimes even well meaning people will try to steer you away from your goals. It’s natural for us to want validation in our lives, but as we step out as leaders we need to be ready for the attacks. Remember, the ones in the front take most of the bullets and the arrows.

If you can keep these three leadership principles in mind, you will be a better equipped leader. Knowing and recognizing what’s coming your way can prepare you for the battles, both internal and external. Be mindful of your effect on others and keep yourself humble. Watch that ego!

Let’s Make an Impact!
Doug

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Doug is a retired U.S. Air Force veteran who enjoys computers and technical gadgets. He serves God in his local church in the audio/video ministry. He holds an Advanced Diploma of Biblical Studies from Faith Bible Institute. Doug and his wife, Emily, have been married since 1989 and have successfully raised three children. It is his desire to impact young Christian men. "I believe that most men are not living up to the potential that God has for them and I want to help them to find their purpose, grow spiritually and impact other men for Christ."
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