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3 Characteristics of a Real Man: How Do You Measure Up?

3 Characteristics of a Real Man: How Do You Measure Up?

Here are just a few characteristics of a Real Man and some verses to help you.

You might consider memorizing some of these!

Characteristics of a Real Man: Humility

Pride destroys you and those around you. It brings down your family, your church and your work environment. God expects men to be humble. It’s when you are humble that God will exalt you.

Better it is to be of an humble spirit with the lowly, than to divide the spoil with the proud. (Prov 16:19)

A man’s pride shall bring him low: but honour shall uphold the humble in spirit. (Prov 29:23)

And whosoever shall exalt himself shall be abased; and he that shall humble himself shall be exalted. (Matt 23:12)

But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble. (James 4:6)

Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time: (1 Pet 5:6)

Characteristics of a Real Man: Strength

Being a Real Man means having strength that goes beyond just physical strength. There are men that have physical strength, but no depth of character. God calls Real Men to have strength that is based on dependence upon God.

Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the LORD thy God, he it is that doth go with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee. (Deut 31:6)

Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the LORD thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest. (Josh 1:9)

I go the way of all the earth: be thou strong therefore, and shew thyself a man; (1 Kings 2:2)

And David said to Solomon his son, Be strong and of good courage, and do it: fear not, nor be dismayed: for the LORD God, even my God, will be with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee, until thou hast finished all the work for the service of the house of the LORD. (1 Chron 28:20)

Be ye strong therefore, and let not your hands be weak: for your work shall be rewarded. (2 Chron 15:7)

Watch ye, stand fast in the faith, quit you like men, be strong. (1 For 16:13)

Note: “quit you like men” in the older English would be the equivalent today of “be a man”. The greek word is andrizomai, which translates to “be men”.

Characteristics of a Real Man: Prayer

A Real Man is a man that spends time in prayer, humbly before God. It is when a man is humble and in prayer that he is Strong.

Yet have thou respect unto the prayer of thy servant, and to his supplication, O LORD my God, to hearken unto the cry and to the prayer, which thy servant prayeth before thee to day: (1 Kings 8:28 – King Solomon dedicating the temple of God.)

Seek the LORD and his strength, seek his face continually. (1 Chron 16:11)

Evening, and morning, and at noon, will I pray, and cry aloud: and he shall hear my voice. (Pslam 55:17)

But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; (Matt 5:44)

Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation: the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak. (Matt 26:41)

Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. (James 5:16)

Characteristics of a Real Man: Conclusion

Solomon was the wisest man that lived. Yet in all of his wisdom, he sought out things in life that never satisfied. You can read about this searching of his in the book of Ecclesiastes.

After looking everywhere and seeking everything, Solomon posts his conclusion.

Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man. (Etc 12:13)

Fear God: Hold the proper respect of God which requires humility.

Keep His commandments for it’s here that we find our strength.

The world doesn’t understand what makes a Real Man. It will tell you that a man must be proud, self-reliant and dependent upon no one.

Not so. A Real Man is humble. A Real Man is dependent upon God. A Real Man is a man of prayer.

 

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Doug is a retired U.S. Air Force veteran who enjoys computers and technical gadgets. He serves God in his local church in the audio/video ministry. He holds an Advanced Diploma of Biblical Studies from Faith Bible Institute. Doug and his wife, Emily, have been married since 1989 and have successfully raised three children. It is his desire to impact young Christian men.

“I believe that most men are not living up to the potential that God has for them and I want to help them to find their purpose, grow spiritually and impact other men for Christ.”

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Do Good and Fear No Man: Biblical-Based Success Principles

Do Good and Fear No Man: Biblical-Based Success Principles

The United States military builds some of the most incredible leaders in life. Do Good and Fear No Man, Life Lessons from a Career in the US Marines, is a book by one such leader.

He has shown himself to be a man who is faithful in his service to God, his family and his country.

I have the pleasure of knowing the author, Lieutenant Colonel David W. Pinion, U.S. Marine Corps, because of our service in church together. I was surprised the day that I learned that he had published a book.

Of course, I had to grab a copy right away! If a friend writes a book, you buy a copy, right?

Want to live a more prosperous life? Looking for secrets to impact the lives of people around you? Do you desire to become a better leader? A better husband? A better father?

This book will go a long way in moving you in the right direction.

Do Good and Fear No Man started as a project to give to the author’s children.

LtCol Pinion shares his thoughts on the frailty of life when serving in the military and what he would want his children to know should he not return home from a deployment.

“I try not to take anything for granted and am thankful for things as simple as the air in my lungs, my ability to walk across the room, and the ability to hold a thought in my head.”
LtCol David W. Pinion, Do Good and Fear No Man

do good and fear no man book coverFrom the moment I opened to cover, I could feel the heart of the author and a sense of love as he wrote the words. Very much like a father writing to his children, or even a grandfather who wants to pass on truths to his grandchildren.

The writing is certainly not condescending, though. LtCol Pinion will challenge you in the area of faith, your actions toward others and your thoughts of success and prosperity.

It can be read from cover to cover, yet be used as a reference book to look up guidance for specific situations in life.

There is even a list of 299 habits of success.

Do Good and Fear No Man is easy to read, but it won’t be easy putting the lessons into practice. As he mentions in Chapter 2, “Maturity, be it spiritual, emotional, physical or intellectual, doesn’t not just happen; it must be sought after.”

LtCol Pinion shares snippets of his experiences in the Marine Corps, hence the subtitle, Life Lessons from a Career in the US Marines.

In fact, my favorite part of the book are the two epilogues included. These epilogues detail events that happened in Fallujah, Iraq from the perspective of two different military leaders; one of them is the author. These alone are worth the price of the book!

“Life can be incredibly painful and unfair at times, but a lot will be decided on how you choose to react to the obstacles you encounter.”
LtCol David W. Pinion, Do Good and Fear No Man

Throughout the book, you will find quotes from from other authors, lots of Bible and other supporting references. It’s obvious that LtCol Pinion has taken great care to detail all of his sources.

Do Good and Fear No Man is a practical success book from a biblical perspective.

It is packed with life lessons, guiding principles and even practical resources like websites to teach you how to change a tire and recommended books to read.

If you have a desire to become a better person tomorrow than you are today, Do Good and Fear No Man is a great resource for you.

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While you’re at it, pick up a few copies for gifts to important people in your life!

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https://www.facebook.com/DoGoodandFearNoMan

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Doug is a retired U.S. Air Force veteran who enjoys computers and technical gadgets. He serves God in his local church in the audio/video ministry. He holds an Advanced Diploma of Biblical Studies from Faith Bible Institute. Doug and his wife, Emily, have been married since 1989 and have successfully raised three children. It is his desire to impact young Christian men.

“I believe that most men are not living up to the potential that God has for them and I want to help them to find their purpose, grow spiritually and impact other men for Christ.”

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What is a Real Man? And How Do You Become One?

What is a Real Man? And How Do You Become One?

I was recently asked to define “real men”. What is a real man?

This was probably because of my blog slogan where I put, “Helping Real Men Become Real.”

But it did get me thinking, what is a real man? How would I define one? How would I answer the question posed to me?

I could go to Google or society and see what it says is the definition of a real man. And some of those definitions, I think, would be right.

But my goal in this post is to look at what the Bible says about men and see what we might be able to discern there. What might God say is the definition of a real man?

A good place to start answering the question of what is a real man might be in the book of Titus. Here we have Paul writing to Titus and explaining to Titus how to choose elders, or leaders in his church.

Here is what Paul wrote to Titus. Although written as a guide for choosing leaders, I believe it also helps us to see what God wants for every man.

If any be blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of riot or unruly. For a bishop must be blameless, as the steward of God; not selfwilled, not soon angry, not given to wine, no striker, not given to filthy lucre; But a lover of hospitality, a lover of good men, sober, just, holy, temperate; Holding fast the faithful word as he hath been taught, that he may be able by sound doctrine both to exhort and to convince the gainsayers.
Titus 1:6-9

There a similar list found in 1 Timothy 3, but let’s look at this and see what we can learn.

What is a Real Man When He is Alone?

“…blameless…not given to wine…temperate…holding fast the faithful word…to exhort and convince…”

A real man is blameless in the sense that he always strives to live right.

He is no hypocrite. He has integrity of character so that he is the same man when alone as he is when in a crowd. He has no hidden sin or vices.

He is firm and solid in his belief in God an is able to teach others. This means that a real man studies the Bible, knows what he believes and why he believes it.

Study to show thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.
2 Timothy 2:15

A real man is a man of prayer in his alone time.

James tells us that “The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.” (James 5:16) A real man spends time on his knees in prayer.

What is a Real Man When He is at Home?

“…the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of riot or unruly…a lover of hospitality…temperate…”

A real man is completely and totally devoted to loving his wife, if married. He stays with her, leads her and sacrificially loves her as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25).

Marriage, I believe, is where a real man will meet his greatest challenge in life. Men by nature have great egos and are selfish. It is in marriage where a man must lay himself aside and learn to love as God loves, sacrificially.

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
Ephesians 6:4

A real man leads his home in all areas, especially in the area of spiritual growth. He is firm and rightly trains his children to love God and be obedient and respectful.

He spends time reading the Bible and praying with his family.

What is a Real Man When He is at Work?

“…not soon angry…a lover of good men…just…holy…”

A real man is the example in the work place. He is temperate and doesn’t erupt in anger over small, insignificant things.

I once heard someone say, “You can determine the size of a man by the size of the things that make him mad.” If that’s true, I’ve worked around a lot of small men!

A real man spends time around other good men that build him up and encourage him. He doesn’t spend much time around those at work who complain and talk badly about others. He is aware of what influences him.

He is honest with his work. He’s on time and productive. His thoughts and his words are always tested, positive and holy.

What is a Real Man When He is at Church?

“…steward of God; not selfwilled…holding fast the faithful word…”

A real man is a steward of what God has given him, to include his finances. He is obedient to God in his tithes and offerings. He loves to give back as God has given to him.

Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.
Hebrews 10:25

He is committed and faithful to his local church and is serving in some capacity based upon the gifts and talents that God has given him.

A real man is attentive in church and studies God’s word so that he can become a better man himself, and so he can use his knowledge to impact others.

How to Become a Real Man?

While all men fail, I believe the overall characteristic of a real man’s life will picture what we just looked at here in the book of Titus.

It’s a tall order and I doubt that any man measures up to what God expects. But I’m thankful that God is faithful and forgiving and helps us to grow, if we ask Him. (1 John 1:9)

The first step in becoming a real man is asking God to forgive you and to save you. Because, if you are not saved your life cannot fulfill what God requires of you. You must first take care of the sin problem.

If you would like to know more about how to be saved, please reach out to me and I’d be happy to share with you what the Bible really says about salvation.

If you are saved, ask God to help you to become the man that He wants you to be. If you would like to talk to me about anything, please reach out.

A great resource to help you become a better man is my free ebook, 7 Keys to Break Free from Habitual Sin. While you may not have any specific habitual sin in your life, this book will help you to grow in other areas. Enter your name and email at DougAllison.com (or on this page) and I’ll send you your free copy right away!

 

Doug is a retired U.S. Air Force veteran who enjoys computers and technical gadgets. He serves God in his local church in the audio/video ministry. He holds an Advanced Diploma of Biblical Studies from Faith Bible Institute. Doug and his wife, Emily, have been married since 1989 and have successfully raised three children. It is his desire to impact young Christian men.

“I believe that most men are not living up to the potential that God has for them and I want to help them to find their purpose, grow spiritually and impact other men for Christ.”

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How to Be a Better Person. Or, How Big Are You?

How to Be a Better Person. Or, How Big Are You?

How to Be a Better Person. Or, How Big Are You?

Did you know that you will never progress beyond what you are?

It’s true.

how to be a better personWhenever you attempt to accomplish something great or move forward in your life, you will come up against opposition. Sometimes that opposition is outward, but most of the time the challenge or the obstacle is internal. It’s a fear of failure, a fear of rejection, a belief that “I don’t deserve this success in my life.” It could be poor attitudes. Or, perhaps it’s just a lack of a specific skill that you don’t feel you can learn.

How to Be a Better Person: You Need to Become Bigger Than Your Problems

If you aren’t bigger than the problem then you will never progress beyond it. You will be stuck where you are in life.

“You will never progress beyond what you are.”

Think of athletes that run and jump hurdles. The hurdles are 3.5 feet high. If those athletes want to compete and have any chance at success, they will have to be able to leap 3.5 feet high. If they fail and are unable to jump that high then they will have to work on themselves, train and grow to overcome those hurdles. If they allow laziness or wrong attitudes to keep them away, they will never succeed.

Jim Rohn, motivational speaker and someone who had great success in his life, said, “Don’t wish it was easier; wish you were better. Don’t wish for less problems; wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenges; wish for more wisdom.”

You see, it’s the struggles in life, and your responses to them that help you to grow into a bigger and better person than you were yesterday. But you have to make the correct response to the problems. You can become bitter or you can become better. It’s all in the attitude.

How to Be a Better Person: How Big Are You?

I once heard someone say that “you can determine the size of a man by the size of the things that make him mad.”

That’s not intended to be a sexist statement. Men, more than woman, have a real problem with anger, but that doesn’t take you women off the hook, because we all struggle with anger. Think about that statement and then think about some of the things that you’ve been angry about recently. It’s a very humiliating exercise if we’re all honest with ourselves.

Honestly, I get angry if someone in front of me is driving too slow! What’s slow? Well, anyone driving slower than I am, of course.

Here’s the truth: small people get angry about small things. Big people don’t let small things bother them. Anger is not an internal attitude that is conducive to success in any area of life. If you want to accomplish something great, you will have to grow to be bigger and better than the small things and leave the anger behind.

Now, that example is focused on anger, but it can be applied to other areas of your life. Learn to recognize areas where you’re being small. You will need to grow in all areas; physical, mental and spiritual. All of these areas require attention if you are to become a bigger person able to overcome your obstacles.

How to Be a Better Person: Tips For Growth

So, you might ask me, if I know that I need to grow, how do I work on that?

First, take a look at who you spend time with. If you want to grow to be bigger than you are, you will need to be around people that help and encourage you in that direction. You just might need to separate yourself from some of your negative friends and possibly relatives. Read my post on influences for more information in this area.

Second, if you want to be bigger and better, then you need to work on yourself. Read books that help improve your attitudes and thought processes. Read inspirational books about others that have achieved. Watch videos or attend seminars by people that are dedicated to helping others succeed.

Finally, as you learn, teach what you learn to other people. You’ll be surprised how much you can improve yourself when you begin to use what you learn and help others. I once was told that, “You will find yourself when you lose yourself in the service of others.” It’s the teacher who always learns the most.

So, there are some thoughts on how to be a better person.

How big are you? Are there areas of your life that you know need growth?

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Doug is a retired U.S. Air Force veteran who enjoys computers and technical gadgets. He serves God in his local church in the audio/video ministry. He holds an Advanced Diploma of Biblical Studies from Faith Bible Institute. Doug and his wife, Emily, have been married since 1989 and have successfully raised three children. It is his desire to impact young Christian men.

“I believe that most men are not living up to the potential that God has for them and I want to help them to find their purpose, grow spiritually and impact other men for Christ.”

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Invest in Yourself for the Greatest Gain in Business and Life

Invest in Yourself for the Greatest Gain in Business and Life

Invest in Yourself for the Greatest Gain in Business and Life

You need to diversify! You need to invest!

Have you heard these two statements? They are important principles when it comes to success. You’ve no doubt been told that you should invest, but not to put all of your “eggs in one basket”. That’s good wisdom. Find good places to invest your money, get counsel and wisdom from other successful people about where to invest.

invest in yourselfWould you like to know where the greatest investment opportunity exists? Would you like to know where you can invest and always be promised huge gains? Well, I’m about to give you a few principles that, if you understand them, will change you and your future.

Invest in Yourself: What to Invest

The first principle to understand is what to invest.

You will want to invest the most valuable asset that you have. What is your most valuable asset?

It’s not your money. It’s not your job or your business. It’s not even your spouse or family members.

It’s your time. Jim Rohn said this about time, “Time is our most valuable asset, yet we tend to waste it, kill it, and spend it rather than invest it.” You never get time back. Ever heard anyone say about a movie or an event, “That was a total waste of time?” You don’t get that back. And all of us have a limited amount of time. So invest your time wisely.

Since time is to valuable, ask yourself a few questions. Is investing my time in my job going to get me where I want to go? Am I investing enough time into my marriage and family relationships?

If you’re not happy with the answers, make a change!

Invest in Yourself: Where to Invest

The second principle to know is where to invest. We’ve already determined that our greatest asset is our time. Now, where do we invest that time?

You invest your time in yourself. People that are unsuccessful waste their time and throw it away with useless activities. Successful people invest in themselves, they educate themselves with college courses, books, seminars, self-help videos. If you want things to change in your life, then you have to change. Don’t expect circumstances to change for you, they never will. Change yourself and the way that you think and you’ll be amazed at what you can accomplish.

Lest someone say that I’m teaching you to be selfish by telling you to invest in yourself, please read on.

Invest in Yourself: So That You Can Give Back

The third principle of investing is where you’ll reap the greatest gain!

The greatest gain that you can make is when you invest your time in others. This is where the huge payout is! But this has to be done in the right order, you can’t skip a step. First, invest in yourself and then you can invest in others.

Two sayings come to mind: “You can’t give what you don’t have,” and “You don’t know what you don’t know.” That’s why the first step is to grow yourself, then you can help others grow. And when you help others grow, it pays big dividends.

You can’t fill your neighbor’s bucket if yours is empty.

So start investing wisely. Invest your time into yourself and then invest yourself into others. When you do, you’ll live a life that others only dream about.


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Doug is a retired U.S. Air Force veteran who enjoys computers and technical gadgets. He serves God in his local church in the audio/video ministry. He holds an Advanced Diploma of Biblical Studies from Faith Bible Institute. Doug and his wife, Emily, have been married since 1989 and have successfully raised three children. It is his desire to impact young Christian men.

“I believe that most men are not living up to the potential that God has for them and I want to help them to find their purpose, grow spiritually and impact other men for Christ.”

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