Doug Allison

Doug is a retired U.S. Air Force veteran who enjoys computers and technical gadgets. He serves God in his local church in the audio/video ministry. He holds an Advanced Diploma of Biblical Studies from Faith Bible Institute. Doug and his wife, Emily, have been married since 1989 and have successfully raised three children. It is his desire to impact young Christian men. "I believe that most men are not living up to the potential that God has for them and I want to help them to find their purpose, grow spiritually and impact other men for Christ."
Doug is a retired U.S. Air Force veteran who enjoys computers and technical gadgets. He serves God in his local church in the audio/video ministry. He holds an Advanced Diploma of Biblical Studies from Faith Bible Institute. Doug and his wife, Emily, have been married since 1989 and have successfully raised three children. It is his desire to impact young Christian men. "I believe that most men are not living up to the potential that God has for them and I want to help them to find their purpose, grow spiritually and impact other men for Christ."

Overcome Habitual Sin: Practical Steps to Keeping the Heart

 

We will never experience a real, vibrant Christian walk if we struggle to overcome habitual sin. Sin binds and keeps us from becoming the men that God wants us to be.

Do you struggle to overcome habitual sin? Are you tired of the cycle of gaining control for a few days and then slipping right back into the same sin?

Then keep reading. God has given us help in His Word.

King Solomon wrote in Proverbs 4:23, “Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.”

If we want to overcome habitual sin, which is an “issue of life”, then we need to learn to keep our heart. That’s what this verse tells us, right?

The word “keep” in this verse has the meaning of a military guard, a post. A constant guard, a watcher, to make sure that our heart is protected. If we want to overcome habitual sin, we need to set a watch, a guard on our heart.

Overcome Habitual Sin: Our Heart

So what is the heart? When the Bible says to keep our heart, what is it specifically talking about? We need to know what the definition is so that we know what to guard.

The best way to interpret the Bible is to let the Bible interpret itself. So, what does the Bible tell us about the heart?

In Proverbs 23:7, Solomon again wrote, “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he; Eat and drink, saith he to thee; but his heart is not with thee.”

So the heart is our mind, our thoughts.

Jesus said in Matthew 5:28, “But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.”

So our heart is also our desires, our will. That part within that drives us toward what we strongly desire; normally evil.

Again, Jesus tells us in John 14:27, “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.”

This indicates that our heart is also our emotions. The heart is the mind, will and emotions.

So, in Proverbs 4:23, when the Bible tells us to keep our heart, we now have a better understanding of what it means.

If we want to overcome habitual sin in our lives then, we need to keep (or guard) our mind (our thought life), our desires (our will) and our emotions.

Overcome Habitual Sin: Our Mind

The mind is our central processing unit. It’s like our computer. Put garbage in and we get garbage out. It’s been said that we become what we think about most.

I need to ask myself, what do I think about most? If I’m always thinking about the sin that I want to overcome, then I’m actually pushing myself in the direction that I don’t want to go!

Many of the sins that men face involve some form of fantasy and that’s a direct result of our thought life.

So, how can we guard our mind? How do we keep that area of our heart that involves our thought life?

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
Philippians 4:8

This passage in Philippians tells us what we should be thinking on: those things that are true, pure and of good report. How do we do that?

Read and memorize the Bible!

We may have heard this before, but have we really tried? Have we been diligent to “keep” our mind and really flood it with thoughts designed to keep us from sin?

Read, memorize and meditate on God’s Word everyday, all day. It’s crucial in the fight to overcome habitual sin.

I wrote a short article about meditating on God’s Word that will help. Click here to read that post: How to Meditate on God’s Word.

Overcome Habitual Sin: Our Desires

Our will, our desires, are closely related to pride and ego. I would argue that pride is the original sin against God. Most sin, if evaluated, starts with pride and our desire to please ourselves.

How art thou fallen from heaven, O Lucifer, son of the morning! how art thou cut down to the ground, which didst weaken the nations! For thou hast said in thine heart, I will ascend into heaven, I will exalt my throne above the stars of God: I will sit also upon the mount of the congregation, in the sides of the north: I will ascend above the heights of the clouds; I will be like the most High.
Isaiah 14:12-14

In these verses, we get a glimpse at the pride of Satan. We have that same pride within us. Jeremiah 17:9 tells us, “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?”

When I sin, I do so willfully. I am, essentially, shaking my fist at God and saying, “I will do this because I want to!” I am exercising my will, for my desires, above God’s will for me.

If we are to overcome habitual sin in our lives, we need to guard our desires. We need to submit our will to God and not exercise our own will toward our own desires, which will always lead us toward sin.

How can we overcome habitual sin in this area?

I recommend fasting and praying. The concept of fasting may be strange to some and it’s beyond the scope of this article, but it’s a practice of denying yourself something that you desire, usually food, and focusing on prayer and asking God for help.

Fasting also, I believe, shows God that we are serious about our request for help and that we are serious about overcoming our sin.

Not everyone should fast and give up food. Talk with a health professional about it and make sure it won’t be a problem first.

When I have fasted, I normally select a specific day and commit to not eat any food that day, I  just drink water. (No coffee either!)

Then, when I feel hunger pains during the day, I use it as a reminder of why I am fasting. I stop what I’m focused on and I pray and beg God to work in my life, or the life of another if I’m fasting and praying for someone else.

Fasting requires discipline. While fasting, we practice denying our fleshly desires in favor of greater, spiritual growth.

Fasting doesn’t always have to be food. You could make a commitment to shut off all the computer, TV and movie access and deny yourself that for a week or two.

I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me.
Galatians 2:20

Galatians 2:20 tells us that we need to consider ourselves crucified with Christ. We aren’t alive, meaning our desire and our will shouldn’t drive us. We need to be submitted to God’s will.

If we want to overcome habitual sin, we need to daily submit our will to God and seek His will for our life.

Overcome Habitual Sin: Our Emotions

Our emotions include that area of our life where we feel we deserve to have our needs met. “I have a right to be happy in life, don’t I?” Or, “I don’t really get the fulfillment that I need from my marriage.”

We need to be honest and ask; is the sin that we want to overcome being used as some sort of replacement for meeting a perceived need?

We need to realize that the only way we can be content and have all of our needs met, is through our relationship with Jesus Christ. He is the only one that fulfills. We should be seeking Him to meet all our needs.

We will never find lasting fulfillment in anything this world provides. And we definitely won’t find lasting fulfillment in our sin. What we get from sin is bondage, shame and guilt.

One of Satan’s strategies is to make us feel discontent with what we have. To make us feel like there’s something better out there. That’s what he did when he led Eve into sin.

Satan wants us to feel like we deserve the pleasures of our sin. That somehow, God is keeping us from the good stuff.

It’s all lies.

So how do we keep our heart in the area of our emotions, our needs?

Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content. I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: every where and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.
Philippians 4:11

The Apostle Paul had learned to draw his sense of being, his purpose, his fulfillment from his relationship with Jesus Christ and the mission that God had given him. He wasn’t trying to find fulfillment in anything else.

We need to learn to be content and realize the blessings that God has given us. He has, and will always, meet our needs.

 

The apostle Paul found contentment in serving God despite being jailed, shipwrecked, beaten and mistreated. We can too.

By the way, if you think you can’t overcome habitual sin in your life. Read Philippians 4:13 again and realize that maybe you can’t, but you can if you allow Christ to work through you!

Overcome Habitual Sin: Our Effort

Back to Proverbs 4:23 where we continue to read, “Keep thy heart with all diligence…”

Diligence means work, men! There’s no way to get around it. If we want to overcome habitual sin, it’s going to take work.

We need to commit and be obsessed with gaining the victory. We need to exercise all diligence in this area.

If you had one million dollars in your house and you were unable to put that into a bank, how diligent would you be in protecting that cash?

My guess is that you would check several times a day to make sure it’s still there and protected. That the safe was locked. That the security system was online and working. I would be willing to bet that many of us would lose sleep thinking and worrying about losing the cash.

If we mean to overcome habitual sin in our life, God is telling us here in Proverbs 4:23 that we need to exercise all diligence to keep our heart. Protect your thoughts, your mind. Guard what you see and hear.

Be obsessed with filling your mind with God’s Word. Read, memorize and meditate every waking minute of the day, if possible! Hey, how serious are we about this?

Someone said that life is a struggle for territory. If you aren’t actively fighting for what you want, what you don’t want will automatically take over.

Degradation and propensity to sin is the norm in this life. We have to work hard to move things into the area of growth and prosperity.

Overcome Habitual Sin: Our Results

Proverbs 4:23 finishes with “…for out of it are the issues of life.”

The reason we struggle with habitual sin to begin with is because we allowed it into our life and now we reap what has been sown.

Out of the heart, the verse tells us, are the issues of life.

But those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart; and they defile the man. For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies: These are the things which defile a man: but to eat with unwashen hands defileth not a man.
Matthew 15:18-20

Jesus tells us in Matthew 15 that what proceeds out of the heart is what defiles a man.

If we are serious and really want to overcome habitual sin in our life, we need to keep our heart with all diligence. We need to work to guard our mind, our wills and our emotions and keep a constant, consistent focus on the things of God.

Because what is in our heart, is what shapes us and what drives us toward our habitual sin, or toward godly living.

Change the focus of the heart and change the direction of your life.

If this post has helped you, please share it with other men.

Also, I have a more in-depth ebook that I would like to give you. On my home page or in the right sidebar, you can enter your name and email and I’ll send you what I call, 7 Keys to Break Free From Habitual Sin.

 

Doug is a retired U.S. Air Force veteran who enjoys computers and technical gadgets. He serves God in his local church in the audio/video ministry. He holds an Advanced Diploma of Biblical Studies from Faith Bible Institute. Doug and his wife, Emily, have been married since 1989 and have successfully raised three children. It is his desire to impact young Christian men.

“I believe that most men are not living up to the potential that God has for them and I want to help them to find their purpose, grow spiritually and impact other men for Christ.”

Posted by Doug Allison in Personal Development, Spiritual Growth, 2 comments

Real Success for the Real Man: Prosperity and Purpose

 

How do you define real success?

Is it defined by a bank account? Is it defined by material possessions, grand accomplishments, fame or noterietay?

Real success for the real man must be defined in the way that God defines success.

The modern day prosperity gospel movement has it all wrong. It’s not biblical at all and to preach it one most accept Bible passages completely out of context.

Yes, God wants you to be prosperous. Yes, God wants you to have success. But real success as God defines it, not you.

If you study the principle of real success in the Bible, you will find it is often attached to obedience to God’s word.

This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success.
Joshua 1:8

But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night. And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper.
Psalm 1:2-3

Let’s take a look at some real biblical teaching of real success.

Real Success: Finding God’s Purpose

Most men today lack purpose. They have no vision, no goals and no direction.

Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.
Proverbs 29:18

This verse is often taken out of context and used to teach the importance of a vision for the future, or the development of goals.

While that is certainly important, the word vision in this verse is referring to the receiving of God’s word as the prophets used to receive and then preach to the people.

What God is telling us here is that when people (you and me) do not have the illumination of God’s word in their life, they run around unrestrained, with no purpose to guide them.

That interpretation is backed up by the second half of the verse where we are told that the man who is obedient to God’s word is happy.

Again, real success is tied to obedience to God’s word, His law.

bible prayerFor real success, a real man needs God’s word in his life. He needs to be personally reading the Bible and attending church where the word of God is preached. (See Hebrews 10:25)

It’s when you are close to God as you read His word and pray that God will reveal to you His purpose for you. Your purpose comes from knowing God’s word and being obedient to it.

Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.
Ecclesiastes 12:13

Spend time with God and ask Him to reveal His purpose to you.

I believe that God has a master plan for every man’s life. He has a divinely designed purpose for each of us. He’s just waiting for you to get serious and ask Him..

God directly tells us what some of His purposes are in the Bible.

We are to witness and tell others about salvation and win souls for Him. We are to love, be forgiving and live a life pleasing and honoring to God.

We are to sacrificially love our wives and raise our children “in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.” (Eph 6:4)

Obey what you know from God’s word and then God will begin to reveal more of His plan for your life to you.

Ask God to begin to show you His specific purpose for you. God wants you to know what that is, because He desires for you to experience real success.

Real Success: Focusing on God’s Purpose

Real success for the real man means focusing on the things that matter most in life. And those things will always be things that matter for eternity.

But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness: and all these things shall be added unto you.
Matthew 6:33

As you stay in God’s word and as He reveals his will, his purpose for you, stay focused on what He has for you to do.

Too many men start well, but then allow themselves to be distracted by what the world has to offer. They get turned away by the lure of money, power, fame and sex.

In Joshua 1:8 and in Pslam 1:2 we see the focus of a prosperous man. It’s in the law of God, the word of God, the Bible.

A former pastor of mine said often that, “God will simplify your life and unify your purpose.”

Once God reveals to you what He wants you to accomplish for Him, focus on that purpose. Remove all other distractions.

Paul said the he died daily to himself while he focused on the task that God had given him to do.

That’s tough for men to do. But as we grow in our relationship with God and with our Savior Jesus Christ, the Spirit helps to guide our steps.

I have found this true in my own life.

As God has revealed to me the purpose of helping young Christian men live for God and discover God’s purpose for them, it has become easier for me to focus on that desire.

All real success comes from God.

God calls, God equips and God fuels the desire within you.

Real Success: Faith in God’s Purpose

Once you know God’s purpose and you focus on God’s purpose, then have faith in God’s purpose.

Real success for the real man comes from faith in God and in His direction.

The steps of a good man are ordered by the LORD: and he delighteth in his way.
Psalm 37:23

Joseph had times when he must have wondered what God was doing. He was obedient to God’s law, but ended up sold into slavery. He lived right, but ended up thrown in prison.

The apostle Paul was very focused on God’s purpose for him, yet he was stoned, shipwrecked, imprisoned, and suffered physical problems.

Real success, real prosperity as God defines it means a man has faith. The prosperous man knows that any situation that arises in his life, God is using it to build him and further His purpose.

God may show you a vision for your life that you can’t possibly imagine achieving. It might even scare you!

Maybe God wants you to be a great leader of people speaking from stage and encouraging groups of men. Maybe it’s a calling to a foreign country to preach the gospel and start a church.

Moses argued that he wan’t equipped to lead Israel out of Egypt. Saul was found hiding when God anointed him King. Isaiah said, “I am a man of unclean lips.” Paul said that he was the greatest of sinners.

Want to experience real success, real prosperity? Want to know how a real man lives? Live by faith. Believe that God has your best interest in mind, wants the best from you and will always be faithful to you.

When God shows you His purpose, have faith and trust that God will be there to help you accomplish the task.

Summary and Resources

Real success does not mean that God wants you to be wealthy. There’s nothing wrong with wealth. A lot of good can be done when a Christian has wealth and uses it for God’s purpose.

God may allow you to have wealth, or he may not. Wealth is not the measurement of real success.

The apostle Paul was not wealthy, but he was definitely a man of real success and prosperity.

Real success does not mean that God wants you to be healthy. God has used so many people to be examples of His grace and strength through sickness and physical disabilities.

The book of Job shows us that sometimes God chooses to show His grace through someone who is suffering. Job lost his family, wealth and health. Why? Simply so that God could be glorified through it all. Think of it! Job has been an encouragement to millions of people who have experienced suffering in life.

By the way, God restored Job and gave him more wealth than he had lost.

Real success and real prosperity for the real man comes from knowing God’s purpose, focusing on that purpose and then having faith that God will work that purpose out in his life.

Become a man that strives for real success. Not success as defined by the world, but success and prosperity as defined by God.


If this has helped you in some way, please comment below and let me know. And share this with other men that you may know who are struggling with purpose in their life.

If you want to know more about how to find God’s purpose for your life, please reach out to me. I’d love to connect and offer you a free, short coaching call to help you.

 

Doug is a retired U.S. Air Force veteran who enjoys computers and technical gadgets. He serves God in his local church in the audio/video ministry. He holds an Advanced Diploma of Biblical Studies from Faith Bible Institute. Doug and his wife, Emily, have been married since 1989 and have successfully raised three children. It is his desire to impact young Christian men.

“I believe that most men are not living up to the potential that God has for them and I want to help them to find their purpose, grow spiritually and impact other men for Christ.”

Posted by Doug Allison in Personal Development, 1 comment

3 Activities for Raising Socially Balanced Children

 

First, let me say that I’m a tech guy. I love my iPhone, iPad, iMac and my job is in the Information Technology field (where I interact with the Windows world). And, used the right way, technology can be a great tool.

However, if we let our children get too wrapped up in the online world, we run the risk of them not developing into young men and women that can interact with other people properly.

With fathers in mind, I thought we’d take a look at a few activities that will help you in raising socially balanced children.

“Daddy Dates”

Frequently take one of your children with you when you go to the store or run out to pay bills. You might even just take them out to lunch with you.

It’s important to get each of your kids alone (assuming you have more than one) so that you can develop relationships with each of them.

This will also give your son or daughter the chance to see you in action as you interact with other people. Remember, children learn more from what they see you do then what you tell them.

While you’re out, this will also give you an opportunity to talk with them. raising socially balanced children means that they learn to communicate with their father, mother and other adults.

Encourage Interaction with Others

Whenever you’re out, encourage your child to interact with others. Especially other adults.

Have them speak to and pay the cashier at the store, or when you pay for your food at a restaurant. Younger kids seem to love holding the money, or credit card, and feeling like they’re the one paying!

Let them order their own food when you’re at a fast-food restaurant.

When they’re old enough, let them tell the barber how they want their hair cut.

I believe activity like this will help them develop good social skills and be less afraid of talking to and interacting with other people as they grow older.

Raising socially balanced children means that they need to learn to be confident around other people and comfortable interacting with them.

I’ve seen too many children that appear shy and scared to talk to other people. While I’ve not seen that same child grow, I suspect that they will have problems later in life and will need to overcome some fear.

Family Game Nights

Plan family game nights! Order pizza or make some popcorn and just sit around the kitchen table together as a family playing board games.

Board games aren’t dead. There are still some fun ones out there that are great for family time.

Use this time to talk and share things on your heart with your family. Ask questions and really try to bring out the thoughts of your children. Learn about each other!

This promotes good conversation skills and many games can be good at teaching life lessons. Use this to educated your children on winning, losing and trying their best.

Oh, and leave all digital devices outside the room. No cell phones. No iPads. No electronics of any kind.

Yep, this means you too, Dad!

Family game night will also build some great memories that your children, and you, will carry with them for life.

Raising socially balanced children in our fast, digital world isn’t hard. But it will take some purpose on your part to plan and take actions that guide in that direction.

It won’t happen by accident. You, Dad, will need to be the guide; the leader!

 

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Doug is a retired U.S. Air Force veteran who enjoys computers and technical gadgets. He serves God in his local church in the audio/video ministry. He holds an Advanced Diploma of Biblical Studies from Faith Bible Institute. Doug and his wife, Emily, have been married since 1989 and have successfully raised three children. It is his desire to impact young Christian men.

“I believe that most men are not living up to the potential that God has for them and I want to help them to find their purpose, grow spiritually and impact other men for Christ.”

Posted by Doug Allison in Parenting, 1 comment

Parenting Tips for Fathers: How to Reach Your Child’s Heart

 

Since Father’s Day was just last weekend, I thought I’d focus on fathers with some parenting tips in this week’s blogs. Today, I want to look at 3 Parenting Tips that will help you reach your child’s heart.

I’m not a parenting expert. I’m not a perfect parent by any definition of the word. But I have raised three kids and I feel that I can pass on some wisdom from what I’ve learned.

You know, you learn from your failures and from successes. So why don’t I share some of that with you?

Here are three parenting tips that I can share with you. I know these will help you along your journey as a Father.

Parenting Tips: Work to Capture the Heart

Looking back, one of the biggest mistakes that I think I made as a father was focusing too much on the external.

I was so concerned that my kids behaved when we were out, that they looked good on the surface, that I wasn’t focused on their heart.

The Bible has a lot to say about our heart and the fact that the state of our heart affects our behavior. Get the heart right, the inside, and the outside will reflect that automatically.

First, you have to be real. Get your heart right with your Father, God, and then you’ll be better equipped to help your children in this area.

Second, focus on the spiritual. Teach your children the importance of the Bible. Read and have prayer with them. Help them memorize verses that will teach them about their heart.

If you can get their heart, you’ll find that any correction in their behavior will be so much easier.

Parenting Tips: Never Discipline Out of Anger!

I believe in spanking. It’s biblical:

He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.
Proverbs 13:24

The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.
Proverbs 29:15

This isn’t beating and it isn’t abusive. It’s to be done in love.

Most men have issues with anger. It’s part of our old, sinful nature along with pride. Never spank, or discipline in anyway if you are angry. Let your anger cool, then sit and calmly, lovingly talk with your child.

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
Ephesians 6:4

Discipline correctly, out of love and it will amaze you how God will use it to help you gain the heart and love of your son or daughter.

Parenting Tips: Praise in Public, Punish in Private

Especially true as you son or daughter gets older!

Never berate them, chastise them, or yell at them in public. It’s a sure way begin to breed rebellion in the heart of your child. (And don’t yell at them anyway.)

If they do things well, heap praise upon them and let them, and the world, know how proud of them you are!

If they fail, make mistakes or are disobedient, take care of that in private.

There are times, normally when children are younger, that you must correct them in public. Maybe they act up while you’re out shopping or eating at a restaurant.

If you have to take care of it immediately, do so quietly and don’t make a huge scene about it.

All three of these parenting tips will help you to get a hold your child’s heart. When you have their heart, they will desire to do what pleases you and they will feel badly if they let you down.

Not unlike our relationship with God. If He has your heart, you will want to please Him and stay away from those things that displease Him.

 

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Doug is a retired U.S. Air Force veteran who enjoys computers and technical gadgets. He serves God in his local church in the audio/video ministry. He holds an Advanced Diploma of Biblical Studies from Faith Bible Institute. Doug and his wife, Emily, have been married since 1989 and have successfully raised three children. It is his desire to impact young Christian men.

“I believe that most men are not living up to the potential that God has for them and I want to help them to find their purpose, grow spiritually and impact other men for Christ.”

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3 Characteristics of a Real Man: How Do You Measure Up?

3 Characteristics of a Real Man: How Do You Measure Up?

Here are just a few characteristics of a Real Man and some verses to help you.

You might consider memorizing some of these!

Characteristics of a Real Man: Humility

Pride destroys you and those around you. It brings down your family, your church and your work environment. God expects men to be humble. It’s when you are humble that God will exalt you.

Better it is to be of an humble spirit with the lowly, than to divide the spoil with the proud. (Prov 16:19)

A man’s pride shall bring him low: but honour shall uphold the humble in spirit. (Prov 29:23)

And whosoever shall exalt himself shall be abased; and he that shall humble himself shall be exalted. (Matt 23:12)

But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble. (James 4:6)

Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time: (1 Pet 5:6)

Characteristics of a Real Man: Strength

Being a Real Man means having strength that goes beyond just physical strength. There are men that have physical strength, but no depth of character. God calls Real Men to have strength that is based on dependence upon God.

Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the LORD thy God, he it is that doth go with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee. (Deut 31:6)

Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the LORD thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest. (Josh 1:9)

I go the way of all the earth: be thou strong therefore, and shew thyself a man; (1 Kings 2:2)

And David said to Solomon his son, Be strong and of good courage, and do it: fear not, nor be dismayed: for the LORD God, even my God, will be with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee, until thou hast finished all the work for the service of the house of the LORD. (1 Chron 28:20)

Be ye strong therefore, and let not your hands be weak: for your work shall be rewarded. (2 Chron 15:7)

Watch ye, stand fast in the faith, quit you like men, be strong. (1 For 16:13)

Note: “quit you like men” in the older English would be the equivalent today of “be a man”. The greek word is andrizomai, which translates to “be men”.

Characteristics of a Real Man: Prayer

A Real Man is a man that spends time in prayer, humbly before God. It is when a man is humble and in prayer that he is Strong.

Yet have thou respect unto the prayer of thy servant, and to his supplication, O LORD my God, to hearken unto the cry and to the prayer, which thy servant prayeth before thee to day: (1 Kings 8:28 – King Solomon dedicating the temple of God.)

Seek the LORD and his strength, seek his face continually. (1 Chron 16:11)

Evening, and morning, and at noon, will I pray, and cry aloud: and he shall hear my voice. (Pslam 55:17)

But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; (Matt 5:44)

Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation: the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak. (Matt 26:41)

Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. (James 5:16)

Characteristics of a Real Man: Conclusion

Solomon was the wisest man that lived. Yet in all of his wisdom, he sought out things in life that never satisfied. You can read about this searching of his in the book of Ecclesiastes.

After looking everywhere and seeking everything, Solomon posts his conclusion.

Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man. (Etc 12:13)

Fear God: Hold the proper respect of God which requires humility.

Keep His commandments for it’s here that we find our strength.

The world doesn’t understand what makes a Real Man. It will tell you that a man must be proud, self-reliant and dependent upon no one.

Not so. A Real Man is humble. A Real Man is dependent upon God. A Real Man is a man of prayer.

 

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Doug is a retired U.S. Air Force veteran who enjoys computers and technical gadgets. He serves God in his local church in the audio/video ministry. He holds an Advanced Diploma of Biblical Studies from Faith Bible Institute. Doug and his wife, Emily, have been married since 1989 and have successfully raised three children. It is his desire to impact young Christian men.

“I believe that most men are not living up to the potential that God has for them and I want to help them to find their purpose, grow spiritually and impact other men for Christ.”

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